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Mahima Sharma
4 Mar 2019 . 1 min read

Pinky's Stand To Marry For Right Reasons Made Life Easy For Her Cousins


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"I cannot forget that horrendous experience in my life. A matrimonial know-each-other was arranged for me. I had just completed my MBA, but my Sindhi and pretty conservative family from Rajasthan decided that it is the right age to get me married off. Though I was not mentally prepared, I patiently dedicated myself and accepted the situation. So there came the first family to see me, sorry I should say interrogate me, as it was no less than an interrogation.

I was bound to feel guilty for being fair in color, as they first asked me to go and wash my face when I came back, they were still not satisfied, they asked me to do that again, but this time one of the family members wanted to accompany me to witness the process. I did. Then they wanted to confirm the colour of my neck, face, and hands, do they match, for that, they asked me to slightly remove even my Dupatta (which is actually a mental abuse) Post that, a series of senseless and baseless questions hit my face. In all this process I was waiting for my family to step in as it was all happening in front of them, but nobody came forward," recalls the 33-year-old Pinky Bajaj from New Delhi, who adds that this incident not only shook her but her family as well.

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A well educated, MBA in Human Resource and Marketing, Pinky says she reprimanded her family since she knew they had to some extent been by her side, when she wanted to do advanced studies. She says her dad loved her the most. Though he did not say a word before the 'weird family' yet post the incident he stood by her daughter and her decisions.

Pinky says post this incident she took seven years to decide whom she would marry. And she claims that she, having taken that stand made the life of her female cousins better in the family. "My parents themselves said now you go and pursue a career. My female cousins followed in my footsteps. They were allowed to pursue their career in whichever field they want, no restrictions." recalls a proud Pinky who paved the way ahead.

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All was going well when in 2013 Pinky met with a major accident. Doctors had indicated leg amputation if the infection didn't subside. Pinky says, during these tough times, her mother was her rock.

Thankfully, the infection healed leaving a deep scar behind, but with her mother by her side, Pinky says she emerged a winner.

Soon she got married to the man of her choice. And just when things again seemed to go well, Pinky informs that her mother died under mysterious circumstances to a fire at home. "I entered my motherhood phase, on July 15, 2016, and I lost my mom on 21 November 2016. When I got the blessed opportunity to be the mom, I lost the right to call my mom. I was not in my senses which are, but very natural, I went into depression, during this phase my husband assumed the role of my Mom. I don’t have enough words to explain how well he stood by me. I had sunk into deep depression," Pink recalls.  

Pinky who is a teacher by profession now, adds that SHEROES came like a stable game-changer in her life,"The phase I was going through I needed something to make myself busy and engaged. One fine day, one of my closest friend, Neelu Tuteja called me up. She asked me to download SHEROES App immediately. I told her I wasn't in a mood to play online games! Neelu asserted that it was the place where I had to be like RIGHT NOW. I gave into her assertion. And discovered a wonderful world, where every woman is walking ahead in life hand in hand, supporting, sharing their stories, learn from them. Today I am highly thankful to SHEROES for making me a stronger woman," chuckles an upbeat Pinky who cuddles her two-and-a-half-year-old daughter as we talk.

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And now Pinky is one of the most-busy members of the SHEREOS App where she pens poetry as well as shares her blogs. "I have been writing poetry since age 12, but never thought of sharing, maybe was scared of the response and reaction. Sharing and publishing in public started with SHEROES only. Aspiring Writers’ Community really inspired me to write and share. But, inspiration was more boosted when Shiny Hoque ma’am appreciated my work and instantly said, start your blog. So Pinky from an amateur writer became a poet and later a blogger," she laughs.

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Pinky adds with pride, "SHEROES came as a ray of hope, faith, and energy for me. I had participated in many contests and won too. One of them helped me grab the SHEROES mug. I was even the first member to get the opportunity to moderate the quiz in the Aspiring Writers’ community."

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Pinky has surely come a long way as a woman. So what's her vision for her daughter? "Well Mahima, nothing. I want her to chase her dreams.  My vision for her is - Live life to the fullest. I never tell her 'Don't do this.' Rather, I always alert why not do a certain thing if it is harmful for her. I don't curb her eagerness to learn and grow. Rest time will decide, she is too young to be imposed with a vision," Pinky smiles.

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And what's her message to the readers at SHEROES? She smiles and asserts, "Don’t ever compromise with your dreams. Always aspire to inspire and reflect the spark around you. Don’t hesitate in expressing yourself. Be attractively expressive. Never give up without trying."

If Pinky Bajaj's journey in our ongoing #MeetTheSheroes Story has left you motivated, don't forget to share it and leave love for her in the comments column. You can follow Pinky on SHEROES.

Hindi Version Of This Article -

पढ़ें इस लेख को हिंदी में - पिंकी ने कई शीरोज को दिया सपनों को पूरा करने का हौसला |


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Mahima Sharma
An award-winning Independent Journalist & Content Curator based in New Delhi. She is Ex-News Editor, CNN-News18 and ANI (a collaboration with Reuters) who comes with an experience of 14 years in Print, TV and Digital Journalism. She is the only Indian who finds a mention in the Writers' Club of Country Squire Magazine, United Kingdom. Sufi at heart, she also has some 30 poems to her credit at various reputed international podiums.

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  • P*****
    Waao amazing
  • R*****
    Pinky you're an inspiration to the whole world!
  • P*****
    Love you both. Amazing and heart touching.Good luck
  • A*****
    Nice knowing you pinky. You are a strong woman who stood tall in the times if struggle. Kudos.
  • S*****
    A very strong inspiration it served to me.
  • P*****
    Lots of love pinki hatsoff dear
  • U*****
    God bless you
  • P*****
    Thank you ladies.itna pyaar dekhk aaj din garden garden ho gya Mera ♥️♥️
  • S*****
    Proud of you girl and hugs 😍💜💜❤❤
  • B*****
    Bravo more power to you pinky
  • S*****
    A big salute and hug to Pinky Bajaj who stood by her dreams n not falling in those cheap people trap and bring hope in other girls aswell
  • P*****
    Hats off to you
  • P*****
    Strong woman!!! Sending you love and hugs!
  • G*****
    Amazing Pinky
  • R*****
    👏👏👏
  • C*****
    One of the humblest persons of the platform though highly talented. I am a big fan of her.
  • P*****
    Ladies.....!!!!! Thank thank you so much for your love....iske Bina shayad AJ Jo pinky hai ..woh "thi" ho chuki Hoti...thanku to every Shero...and thanku Sheroes... Ek bhut bhut bhut bhut se bhi bhut bda wala thank [email protected] mam...for this ray of hope for millions out there... @shiny mam you know I love you...
  • P*****
    Ohh my my...my life seems so interesting and lovable...Mahima mam with your words. ...wow wow wow...I am.overwhelmed...emotions overloaded...thank you thank you thank you so much ...Mahima Mam...big of big hug to you.... I remember ...you were not well...the place you were at surrounded by so much personal tensions still you were so calm and composed while listening to me...thank you thank you mam...true Shero...Show must go on...you justify it very well...:)
  • N*****
    Never knew that behind such a cute face lives a warrior like you...I have always admired you for the spunk you add to Sheroes with your writing.
  • U*****
    Hey Pinky..Bajaj, you Splendour with your Hero, you are a cute Super Shero(es)!! Lovely is your stride,👍👌 stay up 👉 right!!, that' s your right!! Fly high!!hugs😇😍💜
  • S*****
    You have been a tough girl in spite of the trials you faced. Admire you parents to have stood by your decisions when they understood you.. Truly an amazing inspiration for so many of us dealing with challenging things around. Wishing you happiness and more growth ahead...
  • S*****
    Pinky more power to you....more power to you.....
  • A*****
    Brave girl .. Pinky main aapko aapki jindadili k liye bahut pasand krti hoon aap to janha hoti hai wanha apne rang bikher deti hai .. keep smiling dear ..God bless ypu and your family .. loads of love 😍😍
  • P*****
    Loved knowing about you @Pinky Bajaj. You are a strong woman and a very creative writer. Keep up with your high spirits and you will conquer all your dreams..waiting for your next poetries 😊🌷
  • G*****
    Yes @pinky bajaj, the embarrassment which you have gone through is a he'll experience, as if we are a sales prouduct, I got married at the age of 20 have experienced this prior to my marriage. Great, you have overcome the past and great going.. God bless.
  • R*****
    Ohh! So lovely
  • D*****
    @pinky bajajआपकी तारीफ लिखने के लिए , खासकर poetry मेरे पास शब्द ही नहीं हैं,I am speechless,only love you love you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗👌यह छोटी पिंकी भी बहुत cuteहै।इसे मेरा ढेर सारा प्यार दीजीएगा।