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Mahima Sharma
27 Feb 2019 . 1 min read

“I Was Asked To Abandon My New-Born Baby Girl!”


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"I was disqualified for many jobs. Jibes like "You can be a peon, try that," were commonly thrown at me very often. But my failures only made me stronger and more determined to excel. I had to show it to the world that marriage, even if early in life like mine at the age of 20, was just a comma, not a full stop. So I continued my job hunt as well as my studies. There was no study table of mine so I was using the nursery desk of my daughter. I had no choice but to excel", details Pallishree Pattanayak from Odisha, who is now a Ph.D. after some three Masters in different subjects including Mass Communication. She works as a professor in Bhawanipatna now, where her husband works at ODISHA, where their daughter is pursuing an MBBS.

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You would say, 'Wow what a success story!’

But, Pallishree fights back tears and recalls, "I became a mom to a baby girl at 21, who was welcomed by my-in-laws side with tears. My sister-in-law asked me to abandon the kid. But something inside me had broken so deeply, that I decided to rebel. Luckily being in a love marriage, I had my husband's support. But deep in my heart I knew, he does have the remorse of not having a boy child, even today. That's what India is plagued with."

Pallishree says she fought all odds to bring up her daughter while honing her skills to be an independent woman. She says she also had to be independent, to be an example to her daughter who wasn't quite accepted by the paternal side, well into her teenage years.

"I work 500 km away from where she is studying. I know a mother has a great influence on her child, even if they are apart", asserts Pallishree, who is an author of ten books. "Yes, even if I was jobless, I knew I could not afford to waste time, so five of these books came before I got into a full-time job. And five post the job; half are in Odiya language and the rest in English," Pallishree takes pride in detailing, while she adds that she is a consistent blogger at various renowned sites like the SHEROES.

"What a mind-blowing experience with SHEROES I have had. It’s an energy booster for me. Learning many things from wonderful ladies here as if I have taken admission in a multi-task university. I’m so happy, how can I express in words? I had been searching for a platform like SHEROES for years; I wanted to express myself freely and glad I found SHEROES," chuckles a very happy Pallishree who says she wants to mention a few names and express gratitude to them. "I want to thank Sairee Chahal ma’am and the whole team from the core of my heart for providing us women such a wonderful platform. Together we are a great strength. Last and not the least, I would love to thank you, lady, Mahima Sharma I’m really a die-hard fan of yours and of #MahimaDebates that rock the charts daily at SHEROES. Thank you SHEROES for giving me such an opportunity to share my life-story with everyone,"

says Pallishree.  

So Pallishree, for all at SHEROES you are a fighter. But who is Pallishree at heart and how does she unwind?

"Well, Mahima I’m a life member of Red Cross and associated with many charity organisations. I unwind by doing some social work regularly. It gives me that much-needed kick. I also a professional translator (working on a  UNICEF project right now ). I find peace in being a qualified counselor and a motivational speaker. But above all, I am a DREAMER! "

On World Cancer Day, Pallishree recounted her survival journey with the community members.

“It was 28th December in 2016, I along with my husband and daughter was waiting for renewal of our passports. We had planned a trip to Malaysia. Though I was not feeling good from within. Nonetheless, I was excited to go with my family as I'm a travel addict.

It is then when we got an emergency call from Apollo Hospital where my test reports were waiting for me. They said I needed more tests for the confirmation of Cervical Cancer. I was immediately asked to see a gynaecologist. Since my childhood, I was very energetic and enthusiastic. Gradually, I felt more tired, used to have irregular menstrual cycles with lots of white discharge, and always felt feverish.

I'm among those lucky women who got detected in the preliminary stage which is rare. I got operated immediately, followed by medication for up to a year. I took two vaccines within a gap of three months to prevent cervical cancer. I am much better now. Of course, I have restricted my outdoor activities. I maintain my hygiene and health with proper food habits, and aerobics under the supervision of my physician because I want to live.

Do not ignore small symptoms if anything odd happens with your health. Ladies, please go for regular health check-ups after 40. Get vaccination for cervical cancer after the age of 25.”

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This show of strength and grit displayed by an everyday woman like you and I is what inspires scores of women on SHEROES to take charge.

No wonder she leaves us with this message:

"Dare to dream and chase after it. Believe yourself. Don’t look back. And if you wish to talk, I am all ears to hear you and available to motivate you! "

So if Pallishree Pattanayak's story through our #MeetTheSheroes Series, has touched your heart, do share it and leave love for her in the comments column. You can follow her on SHEROES.

Hindi Version Of This Article -

पढ़ें इस लेख को हिंदी में - मुझे मेरी नवजात बेटी को छोड़ देने को कहा गया था।


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Mahima Sharma
An award-winning Independent Journalist & Content Curator based in New Delhi. She is Ex-News Editor, CNN-News18 and ANI (a collaboration with Reuters) who comes with an experience of 14 years in Print, TV and Digital Journalism. She is the only Indian who finds a mention in the Writers' Club of Country Squire Magazine, United Kingdom. Sufi at heart, she also has some 30 poems to her credit at various reputed international podiums.

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  • S*****
    U r really great...like u my mom has fought for me.. But when I was 6mnths old my dad beat her and she died... Coz at my birth she hz got szr.. At when my dad beat her her stitches get destroyed and she left me... And from that time till now my dad didn't ask am I fine or not..
  • R*****
    Hats off to u.. So mch inspiring story A true fighter u r..
  • S*****
    Dear ma'am, Your are true example and proves the real meaning of a SHEROES 😍. Fighters like you make us proud to be a women. God bless you ma'am.
  • J*****
    U are a true Sheroes.. Hugs to u dear
  • C*****
    A true rebel.. Nothing more that I can say.. For I am completely speechless. All I can do is to prayer for you and to follow your foot steps.. We truly need woman like you 🤗🤗
  • U*****
    You are such a real fighter, may god showers all the happiness and blessings in your life...
  • P*****
    I'm really thankful to every one here for such sweet words. This interview is a national recognition for me which added another feather to my cap. I'm more inspired now to work more for our community. I'm really surprised how humble these ladies even if they are in such position ?.Especially Sairee ji,Merril ji,Mahima ji and the team.My prayers for all of you. Mahima ji I know you are not well still you work so hard ,learning from you. Again my humble thanks to all of you.
  • S*****
    Wow pallishree grt hard worker n a fighter too luving our platform day to day as iam learning so much thru this platform n getting inspired from every story so lucky to find u all on the same platform n hving a chance to know abut women as we face so many obstacles n hw life teaches us to become stronger n fight our own battle thnx to all the team of this community to make us feel so comfortable n letting us speak our minds n share our problems
  • B*****
    Fantabulous Pallishree. You're a true fighter. Hats off to you. You hv inspired me in real sense. I too hv 2 daughters. And when I was pregnant to the second one my husband did say that we get sex determination done and abort if it was a girl. Today that girl who's a sweet sixteen is as rebellious as she needs to be. She cares a damn about her dad. And my daughters are the only support in my journey of life and now especially when I'm seeking separation after a long tedious haul of 23 years of a dragging abusive relationship with my husband in all respects. I must say daughters are the real boon if treated with as much care and respect like a son. I remember reading that even Lord Shiva regretted of not having a daughter as he felt incomplete.
  • P*****
    Words fall short to express my gratitude to this great lady whom I proudly call my mother. Thank you for giving me this beautiful life . I live with your morals and all the cultures you have invinted on me. Thank you for being my strongest shoulder and elbow grease to trap my emotions as well as to be the happiest one after going through everything in life. Today I smile irrespective of everything because I know I have you forever and a day 😘
  • P*****
    Oh!God what a honour ! Speechless really. Such a wonderful presentation of my life.A ton of thanks to the whole team.
  • S*****
    Amazing courage
  • P*****
    Respect!!! Respect!! Respect!!!! Salute to you mam for your courage, strength and determination!!!!!
  • C*****
    Wow! 3 PhDs, that too after marriage! Quite inspirational.
  • A*****
    Very nice. God has given blessing all the time. Good luck. Also thanks to Mahima for sharing here
  • R*****
    Amazing positivity you have dear. ! May God fulfil all your dreams and desires. .👍
  • P*****
    Powerful!! Very knowledgeable and learnd person you are! Your daughter is so pretty!!
  • J*****
    Mahima ji.. Thank you so much for sharing such inspiring stories day in and day out. Stay blessed
  • S*****
    How inspiring!
  • U*****
    You are an inspiration 😍 Power to you 👍🏻
  • S*****
    Bhut sunder hi aap
  • U*****
    You are a noble soul with empowering energy!!!!stay blessed dear💜🌹!!
  • H*****
    Ninga woman!!! I AM really inspired...you are a gem Pallishree!
  • R*****
    U r great.
  • P*****
    Bravo pallishree 👌👌
  • S*****
    You set example! Pallishree. Love❤