Here’s A 11 Point Cheat Sheet To Get Kickass Relationship Goals!
“What does this text mean?”
“You will not believe what he just did!”
“What do you think I should do?”
All of us are guilty of having gushy conversations with our gang of girls and seeking relationship advice. Let’s face it, even the best of relationships sometimes face a rut and need a little work. And it is no wonder that we end up seeking our best friends for advice on how to keep our relationship strong and happy. Even if it sometimes ends up looking like this:
The iconic scene from Sex and the City
Love, honesty, trust, mutual respect and the ability to laugh together are some of the characteristics of a good relationship. But a healthy relationship is mostly about maintenance. The beginning of a relationship is simple. But the key to having a healthy relationship is prolonging that honeymoon period for years to come. How do you ask? We’re here to help!
But before that, you may need these love quotes to express your feelings.
Here are 11 healthy relationship advice for couples:
#1. It’s okay not to be okay
No relationship is perfect and there will be conflict. It is completely okay to accept that. What matters is the desire to solve the problem. The first step is to acknowledge that there is a problem and then, communicate with your partner about how you feel. There is nothing that a good discussion cannot fix. Seek to understand your partner, even if you don’t always agree. This is a lot easier said than done but you know you value your relationship.
#2. Be More Positive Than Negative
Compliment more than you taunt. Appreciate more than you criticise. Sure there are some habits about your partner that annoy you but just talking about them all the time feels like nagging. If you’re a person who showers praise when it is deserved, your partner will know that if you’re pointing.a problem out, it comes from a place of concern and hope for improvement, not just criticism.
#3. Do the things you did the first year you were dating:
As the weeks, months and years roll by in a relationship, we tend to get comfortable with our partners. That is great. Unfortunately, sometimes, we also end up getting lazy. We stop making the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. It can be simple things like dressing up for him, cooking a meal or leaving a nice note in the fridge. Now start doing them again.
They say we often don’t ask to listen, we ask to respond. While it may seem basic, we tend to forget that listening is so completely integral to good communication. Good communication, in turn, is they key to solving even the most major relationship problems. Talking to your partner is very important. Listening to them, even more so.
#5. Stop and appreciate all that your relationship is this very second
Don’t live for what your relationship can be, live for what it is. Right now. In this very second. You have a person in your life that you love and you choose. Every single day. And they love you and choose you too. Don’t you think that deserves a little celebration every once in a while?
#6. Keep the surprises coming
With time, we learn our partners by heart. We know what makes them tick and what ticks them off. We know the exact thing they’ll order off a menu, the exact clothes they will wear on a certain occasion, the exact story that they will tell in a conversation. Despite the beauty in this, it also makes us predictable. So it is nice to surprise them sometimes! Wear red instead of black. Cook at home if you usually order takeout. Come up with new date ideas. Shake things up a little!
#7. Be grateful
Say thank you. Say it again. Say it a lot. Let him know that you notice the little things he does for you. Let him know that you appreciate the effort he takes for the two of you. Everyone likes validation. It’ll make him happy. It’ll also make him want to do it more often. It’s a win for you both!
#8. Set relationship goals
Like any other area in your life, you relationship too should be moving forward towards something. That is why, it helps to have goals. Make a checklist of things you want to accomplish together. Be it traveling to a new place or getting a new home - set goals and then work towards them, together.
#9. Spend time alone
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Take some time out for yourself. Do a girls night out or travel by yourself. Spending time apart is as important as spending time together. Distance gives perspective. And it will leave you with a longing to be reunited.
#10. Make promises that you can really keep
You love your partner and you want to bring them the moon. But tall promises that you cannot fulfill will make you feel overworked and insufficient as well as make them feel disappointed. Instead, promise little and outdo it. Under-promise, over-deliver. Always.
#11. Keep it sexy
Guys tend to connect more with women on a physical level. Keep the spark alive in your relationship by keeping in intimate between the sheets. Get lingerie you feel like a goddess in. Try something new. Cuddle more. Initiate a high-school style make-out session. Keep it sexy.
#Bonus Tip: Know what you want and ask for it
As much as we’d want it to be the case, our partners aren’t mind readers. I Not knowing what you want or not asking for it can only lead to misunderstandings. t is important to know your exact expectations from a relationship and communicating clearly with him about them.
Breakups are pain, but it's my job to remind that if somehow, you had a breakup (which I pray should not happen to you) these tips to forget someone you loved and moveon will surely help you.
Making these small things a part of your daily life can go a long way in building a healthy relationship with your boyfriend or husband. What are your go-to tips for a healthy relationship? Tell us in the comments below.