Every day, we are reminded about why we need to be selfless. Why, especially women need to be selfless. In this post we want to speak about why it is actually more important to be selfish.
When we say being selfish is important, we don’t mean being selfish in the mean, juvenile sense, of course.
Being selfish is important to remind yourself that you matter before anybody else. To remind yourself that only when you can take care of yourself, you can take care of everybody else around you.
Tell us if you don’t agree with these five reasons we list out about why it is acceptable and important to be selfish.
It is okay to have ambitions, and chase them fiercely
Be selfish when it comes to having your own dreams, guarding them and nurturing them. Go out of your way to make them all happen. At the end of the day, having a satisfying and fulfilling career is the only thing that will get you through the worst days. The feeling of being independent through having a fulfilling career is one of the best feelings ever. If to achieve it, you have to be selfish, so be it.
It is okay to make choices that don’t seem to be the norm
Maybe you are going against what the ‘normal, acceptable’ direction seems to be (for girls). But if that’s what your heart truly wants (could be a career, could be a relationship, a choice of profession, just anything), go ahead and do it. Remember that the norms don’t define you, you define yourself. Make choices that make you happy, but responsibly. However, don’t refrain from making those choices just because the world around you deems them ‘selfish’.
It is okay to want to withdraw, and rejuvenate
You don’t have to be around people all the time, constantly doing things for others, and taking care of others. Remember to take care of yourself as well. It is alright for you to withdraw from your daily responsibilities every once in a while so that you can rejuvenate. That doesn’t make you selfish, on the contrary, it makes you responsible because you understand that self-care is the most important form of care.
It is okay to want something, just because you want it
You don’t always need to abstain and sacrifice. This doesn’t mean it’s alright to be extravagant. What it means is, it is alright to want that scarf, or that shade of lipstick, and it is alright to go ahead and spend on it, even though it is a ‘need’ and not a ‘want’. Don’t dismiss everything that you want for yourself as unnecessary or extravagant. It doesn’t make you selfish when you want to treat yourself every now and then. And you must!
It is okay to pamper, love and care for yourself – in fact, it is crucial
The only person who knows exactly the kind of pampering that will make you happy, is you. The only person who knows what kind of care you need, and deserve, is you. Stop waiting for someone else to do all that for you. Stop feeling like you don’t deserve it. You deserve all of that and more.
How you treat yourself sets the tune for how everyone around you treats you. Take yourself seriously, and be selfish about what you want. Do things for yourself, invest in yourself. Be your own person, and watch how that attitude makes your world a great deal happier and brighter.
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