How To Master The Art of Self Investment?
When I ask my clients how much time you invest on yourself, hardly few women reply with stuff like, “I take out 10 minutes daily for myself or I am working on my hobby.” But what about others? Sometimes, we humans work like machines, day and night but fail to understand the importance of what we deserve for ourselves. That may result in poor quality of life, lack of satisfaction and happiness. It's high time to take time for yourself.
Here, I would like to share some examples from my own practise. There was one client named, Astha (name changed), a software engineer by qualification, who never got the opportunity to work. Post marriage, after few years, she started having mood swings, irritability and no underlying medical reason was diagnosed. When she came to me, after few sessions, both of us started realising that she was having this trouble because her lack of self worth. So, with my advice, she started working on some stuff from her home, even after a gap of 10 years. After few months, she started showing improvements in her behaviour.
I see this behavior over and over in those who feel thwarted and unsuccessful – they are incredibly reluctant to invest time, money and energy in themselves and their own growth. They are comfortable only when putting other people’s needs ahead of their own. They’ll make any excuse for why now is NOT the time to invest in themselves or commit to change. They feel guilt, shame and anxiety over claiming “I’m worth this.”
To overcome this, here is a little trick you can try”
I suggest you to make a list of activities that you are doing in life, and things that you really wish to accomplish.
Divide the list into these 3 categories:
Things that I need skills for
Things that I can do immediately
Things that I need time for
You need to work through the Skills category on your master list. Go through it and assign the skills you’ll need to each item.
All you need is 4 columns.
A column that lists the skills you have to learn
A column for Research
A column for Action
A column for Progress
Make “things you can do immediately” category your master list. These are the things that you could actually do right now.
When you want to accomplish anything, the best way to do it is to stop dreaming. To focus and treat it like a project you’re being paid to do.
Investing in yourself may be the most profitable investment you ever make. It yields not only future returns, but often a current pay-off as well. The surest way to achieve a better quality life, to be successful, productive, and satisfied is to place a priority on investing in both personal and professional growth. The effort you put into consistently investing in yourself plays a large role in determining the quality of your life now and in the future.