Burn That Blame Game

Rhea was intelligent, a top performer in her company who climbed the corporate ladder quickly, and became a team manager within a few years. Her hard work was reflected in her reports, and in the client feedbacks too. Rhea had started working a decade ago, as soon as she stepped out of college. All this while she had nurtured a dream, of starting her own venture. One fine day she  gave up everything, and resigned from her job, sending the letter in the wee hours of the morning.

She had plans of opening her own company, but was a little confused.  She then zeroed in on the one thing she wanted to take forward, and make a name for herself  and her own company. While she was working hard to achieve her goals she would often stray  from her path and get confused. One year down the line Rhea, who was still struggling to set up her company, was stressed  as the company had not made any sales yet. She was not able to figure out  she and her partner had gone wrong. Rhea was on the verge of bankruptcy, a thought that was freaking her out.

Rhea reacted in a manner that was not expected from a mature, confident and hardworking woman like her. She started blaming others for her situation. At the work she blamed her partner for not being able to crack deals and improper sales, , and did not even spare the guards and the peon at the office.  At home she blamed her family for not supporting her, and blamed her husband for her emotional breakdown.

Even though everyone was supporting Rhea, she was busy blaming them for her failures. Often people start blaming others when something bad or wrong happens in their lives. This is common and there are different reasons why they do this. It is often said that people who blame others usually do so to hide their feelings. However, why do we blame others? Here are some of the reasons:

• Loss of control: Some people blame others because they have lost control of a particular situation and are panicking. In trying to gain control over the situation they start blaming others.

• Control factor: Some people try to control others by blaming them. If someone desperately wants to get some work done from you they may blame you, or worse, call you arrogant, selfish or a snob.

• Unable to accept reality: Often people blame others when they fail to accept the situation.

• Owing responsibility: Some people find it difficult to accept their mistakes and start blaming others, just to escape from their responsibilities.

• Learning from the elders in the family: Children who are not taught to take responsibility for their actions and see their parents blame others, grow up to be adults who continue the blame game.

Those who blame others, usually try to hide their own helplessness. By doing so they just feel in control and assume they are better off. It is high time, that the blame game is stopped. Seek help. Learn from failure.  Try building instead of blaming.