Here’s Why You Need To Have ‘The Sex Talk’ With Your Child

Last updated 14 Sep 2017 . 4 min read

While we choose to ignore the not-so-childish-yet-adult scenes that play out on our screens at home, Madhavi doesn’t. A petroleum engineer by education, Madhavi Jadhav - CEO and Founder of That Mate - is on a mission to dispel myths around sex for adolescents, who are the most vulnerable and an ignored group.


Madhavi Jadhav


“My niece got her periods when she was 11 years old. She asked her mother several types of questions like, why periods happen? Why they only happen to women? Can she get rid of them? Why it comes every month? My sister-in-law and my cousin, both, were uncomfortable answering her questions. They were trying to dodge her questions. This made me think, even in 2016, the situation hasn’t changed.

Words like condom and sanitary pads are considered ‘taboos’ in my family. I thought my cousin and my sister-in-law, who are almost a decade older than I am, wouldn’t keep their kids uninformed as my parents did. However, when my niece asked these questions and nobody in the family cared to answer, I realized something had to be done.”


Creating Sexual Awareness Among Teenagers

“Sex education is still very much a taboo in India. Parents get scandalized when it’s brought up. Teachers are uncomfortable discussing it in schools. And the internet is not always a reliable source.

This affects the kids, consciously or subconsciously, and typically has repercussions in the form of depression due to sudden physical and mental changes, which they are not properly aware of.  Also, unprotected sex or incidents of sexual abuse don’t happen because of sex education, rather due to the lack of it.

I want That Mate to become a solution for all adolescent related health problems. We will be launching our comic books soon on topics like puberty, how babies are born, depression, anxiety, gender equality, teenage pregnancy etc. We are also planning to conduct workshops for teenagers as well as their parents.

What I want to tell people is that the topic of sexuality doesn’t just cover the sexual act. It covers a wide range of topics including those that people have a tendency to completely ignore. For example, child abuse is something that a lot of people have undergone.

When I launched my website and started talking about child abuse, I was surprised by how many people came up to me and confessed that they had been sexually abused as children.

We have conducted 10 workshops so far - for parents and for kids. We have connected with around 2000 kids. The response has been amazing. While kids ask questions like, “I have some white mark on my body is that a sign of puberty?”; college students ask questions like, “I have a small penis size is that an issue?”

We generally conduct workshops for boys and girls together. We do get resistance from the school authorities about this. However, we want children to know about puberty, regardless of their gender.”


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Addressing The Curiosity

“Children of all age groups are curious to know about sex, periods and condoms. The advertisements and the physical changes that happen in their bodies, probe them to know more about it.

A lot of parents ask – “What would the children think of us once they get to know all this?”

Let me tell you – this fear is totally unfounded. Most of the times this awkwardness is mostly in the minds of parents. Honestly, children are just curious. I don’t think children feel odd if it is presented in a mature manner.


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I plan on visiting schools and conducting sessions with kids as young as eight. I want to collaborate with schools and NGOs to spread awareness. The idea is to educate the kids and answer their queries through our forum. We also plan to have a one-on-one counseling session for the kids.”


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Lola Jutta
An unapologetic writer, budding travel enthusiast and a default optimist! Life is what you make out of it.

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