Are you doing enough for the women in your life?
Women are under-represented in many spheres like politics and the corporate sector. So, is Women’s day another occasion for lengthy debates on feminism? Or is it an event to remind ourselves of the glorious women who worked hard and went out of their way to make our lives easier? It is much more. It is a platform to ignite the spark for feminine themes that need attention. Right to vote, right to own property, right to work and equal pay, right to education, ban on women trafficking, domestic violence are among the numerous battles that feminists have fought for over the years. With the theme of ‘Pledge for Parity’ for the current year, let us resolve to live the life of equality.
Spare the scrutiny
If a woman is successful, how many times do you attribute her success to hard work? Do not underestimate or over-criticise her. Don’t we relish digging into her personal life for the sake of derogating her worth? For example, when Sania MIrza got engaged, a huge debate started about whether she would play for India or Pakistan. Moreover, the T-shirts she wore drew more attention than what she achieved on the courts. Do we really bother so much about her male counterparts? Let her breathe the same air. Let her be what she wishes to be.
If there are two kids in a family, a boy and a girl, the latter is sent to a school/ institution with a lower fee even today. This is a harsh reality that is still seen in many urbanised households and rural homes too. Why? Instead, we should save expenditure and expose "her" to equal opportunities. A girl is not a commodity to be traded. Do not marry off girls till they are economically independent. Let her complete her education, she has the right to lead a dignified life.
Tweak the rulebook
Don’t have four different rule books for the sons, sons-in-law, daughters and the daughters-in-law. Isn’t it just a case of social convenience that daughters go to the other home after marriage? Stop differentiating work by gender. Why not share the household chores and monetary decisions? Support the women in your life in fulfilling their dreams. Ritika, working as a mid-level manager at a renowned cement company, confesses, “My mom started out as a French teacher when we went to college. Our home was all a mess since we could not manage it without her. We convinced her to drop her newly found engagement. However, now as a mom, I realise how selfish we were!”
Ask for what you deserve. Do not feel guilty while asking for maternity leave or flexible working hours. Negotiate your overdue appraisal without any remorse.
When a woman is in-charge of the wheels, how many times do the men frown? When was the last you spotted a mixed team of girls and boys on the playfield? Do not inhibit the women from entering the "male domain." She may be the first, but not the last.
Sensitise your kids
Teach your boy to respect girls. Show your girl life beyond social clutches. Do not set any boundaries, do not limit skills. Let us make every day special for ourselves and the women around us!